“I may not have given you the gift of lift, but life surely gave me the gift of you.”
It took me year’s to realize that my Dad was my real Dad just not my biological father. He’s the reason I believe that not all men are like the ones who leave their little girls and never come back. I was a difficult teenager and even worse in my early 20’s but Dad never gave up on me. After having my sons in my late 20’s I figured out how to be a good daughter.
He was my sons only Grandfather, actually he was referred to as ‘my Pap’ by both of his grandsons. He was completely wrapped around their fingers from the moment of their births until he died. He was an excellent role model for the both of them. They’re both becoming rock solid young men that their Pap would be proud of. We miss you Pap and you’ll always be with us in our hearts and minds with the best of our memories of you.
I was lucky enough to get to go to Florida in October of 2017 with both of my parents (Betty & Denny), my brother (Dale) and my oldest (Luke) son. We went in their RV and pulled the van behind us on a dolly. My first vacation in 7 years and I had an excellent time with my family. I did things with my Dad, I hadn’t done in over 10 years.
Dad loved to substitute teach after he retired. He loved “his kids” out there.
He made a special point of taking me out for ice cream several times. I guess I scared him when I told him “I’ll drink your beer if I don’t get my ice cream pretty damn quick” because he took us all out to an old fashioned ice cream parlor that evening. It was located in the downtown historical Winter Garden and it was the best chocolate with frozen swirled peanut butter ice cream I’ve ever had. We walked along the cobblestone streets and window shopped. Then took a long ride around a massive lake and walked out onto the boardwalk to look for gators. A perfect day to be outside enjoying the sun and each others company. That trip has given me memories that will always be in my heart and they’ve touched my soul. I’m typing through my tears just wishing I could go with Dad for one more ice cream. I miss you Dad. Don’t forget to take the time to tell your loved ones how much you care about them. Life is over in the blink of an eye.
Pap, Tristan & Nana 2016
To have mutual respect for humanity is a good life for all of us. Living our days by a code of respect, honor, truth and responsibility unto yourself and others. That’s what life is about and how it leaves a legacy behind for all of our loved ones, our family members and friends that became our family. We’ve got to lead by example on what true respectability means or the future generations won’t understand any of these values. We should be humble when giving respect and then being gracious when receiving it. Always respect yourself first and others will be respectful to you. Respect for yourself is a priority for everyone’s. People will follow by example on how to show respect and how it feels to be respected in return. Respect and honor all of your people, whether it’s family or friends. People need to teach values to all children. Respecting your people who share love with you and that are a part of your life is a rewarding way to spend a lifetime. Spend quality time with all of your parents, grandparents and family members and learn from their experiences.
Nana, Luke & Pap 2015